Maybe the dishes are not the issue but something else.
Many couples have trouble communicating. I am a divorced guy; this is something I have personally experienced. If nothing else appears to be going on, she may be tired of doing the dishes, but if there is a deeper issue, you both need to rediscover the reasons that you are together (hopefully you love each other) and get back on track, even if you both decide on paper plates for a while, as long as taking out the trash doesn’t become your next question!
Men Doing the Dishes Leads To Better Sex And Staying Married: Wives Will Divorce Over Housework “Second Shift” – Unasked advice
And consider https://www.amazon.com/Relations…
Here’s to hoping that dirty dishes are the worst of your troubles!
And you never find a note like this:
Good luck!